Coping strategies

What to do when people make you feel inadequate

Work environments are sometimes the hardest places to be a human. As a human we are imperfect and still growing and we do make the occasional mistake. Making these mistakes in the workplace though, sometimes lead to harsh judgment and critique.

There may be people who will make you feel inadequate for the job at hand. How do you bridge this?

  1. Always remember that everybody is allowed an opinion, but like the old Facebook wisdom rings: A lion isn’t concerned with the opinions of a lamb. See yourself as that lion.
  2. In the morning, or at night before bed, open an empty document on your computer and type at least 5 positive, building affirmations about yourself. I am more than capable. My work is always done to the best of my ability. I am reminded daily of how hard I work. I have 10 years of experience in my field. I am at a senior level for a reason.
  3. Think a little longer about your replies to scrutiny. Sometimes no reply is better than a snippy one.
  4. Remember that nobody can steel your worth. You are worth more than the sum of your mistakes. If that were true, everybody would have to be taken down a notch or two.
  5. If it’s making your life miserable, don’t be afraid to let go. You still have a choice to endure or to get up and leave. Don’t ever feel obligated to keep yourself in a situation that is hurting you, through a false sense of loyalty or the like. Know when to remove yourself from poisonous environments. Be your own advocate and fight to stay happy.

One thing you have no control over is the opinions and actions of co-workers. Your only job is to check your own attitude and make sure you aren’t that poisonous co-worker making somebody else’s life miserable. We’re all just normal human beings trying to make it to Friday :-).